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Is there codes in the BDSM world?
Similar to the gay hanky codes? http://alt.xmission.com/~trevin/hanky.html I'm new to the BDSM scene and I want to know how to single I"m a female submissive. I'm glad its a great question.. does anyone have answers?
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- Wow, TMI!
- great question.
- I can't say that I've ever heard of any code-words, to be honest. There's a lot of jargon, if you could call it that. Someone outside the scene may well have no idea what D/s might mean, for example.
- I know you say you are a sub but have you ever concidered being the dom. it really is a lot of fun. hell i'd have to say it is a lot of fun to play both roles. it is also a good idea to learn both roles because it really will make you better in the role of your choice if you truely understand the other role. i really like a book called "the sexually dominant woman" it tells all about safe words (which are really really important in a sub/dom relationship). you can find it at http://www.christiesfuntoys.com/prod_info.php?a=4498-5797&pnum=CNVELD-6505 even though it is about the woman being the dom it has alot of useful info in it that can help you as a sub. just remember please that info is the key in the world of BDSM. you have to trust the person you are with because you can get seriously hurt and if the person you are with is not a true dom then they are not someone to be with. your dom should take your safety as a main priority. if you are trying this with someone you are in a commited relationship with it is a lot of fun. my husband and i have tried it and we did enjoy it. if not another book you may want to look into is SM:101 it is not a lot of fun to read but it is very informative. BDSM is a very serious thing and you should know what you are getting into before you try it.
- There aren't any code words of which I know but there are myriad gestures. Head down, lack of eye contact, palms up. There are a few things you can do in a normal social setting (like a bar for instance) but if you want to be obvious - get yourself a collar or a shirt that says "submissive" on it. The shirt may be a better idea since onlookers may view your collar as a sign of ownership to someone and think you're taken already.
- No there are not codes as such in the BDSM world. However there is an symbol. Wearing this as earings or on a necklace can identify you as being in the scene. http://www.fetishexchange.org/triskell.shtml My best recommendation for you is to find a nearby munch that you can attend to meet others in your area that are like you into this lifestyle. You say you are in a small town, but there will still be munches around, you may have to travel into the nearest city, but look for some in your area. Or contact me and i will see if i can find some for you. k
