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What is your opinion and/or knowledge of BDSM?

BDSM is a lifestyle choice and many of the sub men that I come into contact with feel the need to hide the fact that they are submissive to women and like to be Dominated. Many are married or in relationships and cannot tell their partner for one reason or another. I feel society has a very stereotypical view of this lifestyle and want to know how people who are not into the lifestyle, perceive it. Or why, in general, men feel the need to keep this side of them, hidden. I see that the majority of women who have answered the question have been derogatory about it. The men somewhat different...I think that answers My question about men having to keep it private in their lives. In answer to a certain ladies comment...I do not appreciate being called "not normal" either. As I said, it is a lifestyle choice and people shouldn't be so biggoted and ignorant. You obviously know nothing if that is what BDSM means to you. I agree with the comment made about men coming to see Me who are successful and powerful...they love to submit in contrast, it does indeed balance things out in their lives.

Public Comments

1. I think it's great!
2. Ive seen the bdsm sites. It's chicks kicking dudes in the jewels, or hog-tying em up and spanking them. You got balls (not body parts) strapped to the mouth sometimes. Sometimes, you got your body parts clamped with clothing pins. Overall humiliation for one and sadistic power to the other. They think being in pain is stimulating. Usually dressed in latex with cut-out areas, or suits where the whole face is covered except the nostrils and mouth, sometimes not even the mouth. Oh, and putting your head in this contraption that traps you in, made of wood..I could go on. Really ridiculous, imho, but whatever. I can assure you that my husband has no desire to be kicked in the nads, or hog-tied by a woman. That is signifying a deeper emotional issue. It's not normal. I know "normal" is supposedly relative, but there are pretty clear lines as to what the gauge of normal is and that's not one of them. But you do you anyway.
3. It doesn't float my boat personally
4. I'm a sadist!!! I got to unleash it a couple of weeks ago by kicking this dude's balls into submission!!! I can't tolerate pain...
5. It's an exciting world that I don't have direct experience of. I think most people seek balance in their lives so I wouldn't be surprised if most of your submissive clients are powerful people in business who are looking for release from the burden of responsibility.
6. Well, personally, I'm into the lifestyle, so I can't really comment. But I know how others see it- either as stupid, theatrical, over-the-top costumery, as sadistic torturers who are messed up, or just sexual freaks.
7. I feel like I should hide involvement too, but Ive not done a very good job of that here. Its different for men, women are allowed more sexual freedom, they can have much younger guys, men cant really do that, they can have much older guys, men cant really do that... same with BDSM.
8. sounds great [=
9. I think loads of men have this fantasy-it's sexy, and many guys who are more expected to be real men find it taboo. Sometimes it becomes less interestin if there is serious chores, pain, attentiveness required, which is why it's hotter as a fantasy. But yeah would like to try it.
10. It's wonderful to see another open mind on yahoo answers. Personally I have a positive opinion about BDSM, after spending the last 10years enjoying both submission and more currently Domination, I love BDSM and feel that as long as it is done in a healthy and positive fashion it has great potential for any person as well as committed couples. These days I present and play as a Master, I own 1 submissive and 1 slave and I also teach many others both male and female about BDSM, currently I have somewhere around 4 students both in person and online. As for your specific question, the reason that most submissive males tend to hide their desires is because it goes against how society at large is constructed. From the age that we're old enough to understand the difference between boy and girl, boys are taught to be tough, masculine, strong, and in control. Even in today's society where it is more equal that socialization still exists. Unfortunately that socialization completely goes against the submissive male mind set and identity. It is impossible to be tough, masculine, strong, and in control while simultaneously giving up all control and begging for the attention and touch of a woman. The truth is that most submissive men are often unfortunately ashamed of their submission, they're afraid of how people will respond if they find out, and they're afraid to admit it to themselves that they enjoy giving up their power, their security, and their control. Furthermore, as you have seen in the other answers, many people still have large misconceptions about anything related to BDSM, as a result telling someone you're interested in BDSM can often have negative results. If you want to get an idea of BDSM as seen on yahoo answers you may want to check out my previous answers since I spend a lot of time on BDSM questions. Feel free to send me an email, I love chatting with like minded people.