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Race & the issue of BDSM?

This question was just in my head. If you're African-American and know about our history with slavery and our bondage as a people, what do you think: is it ok (being a black woman) for you to participate in BDSM with a partner of another race and now about the struggles we suffered during slavery. What if you want to participate in BDSM with a person of another race? Is it wrong, right? Details & reasons why/why not please. Thanks. I am specifically talking about when the black woman is the submissive & the white man is the dominant. @ Luvbee: Here is some more info on BDSM: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/BDSM

Public Comments

1. From what I've seen, everyone has been in bondage somewhere along their ancestral lines. And unlike Slavery, BDSM ends when the subbie decides.
2. Elaborate on BDSM? Update: Thanks. I wouldn't be in agreement with this, but what someone chooses to do in their bedroom is their business. If someone is stigmatized about racial things, they should probably not do this. There can be phsycological effects of activity such as this. But again what someone does in private is their business.
3. Gross I would never participate in that.
4. I think you're dealing with the issue of having this power differential in your relationship. It's ultimately a very philosophical question that has no "right" or "wrong" answer. But here's what I think: If you're upset about the race relations in our country and other places...know that it stems from power differentials. And a little BDSM is not going to make a huge difference in your life. BUT the little BDSM and your inclination to participate in it has its roots in something else that you subscribe to. And by participating in BDSM, are you going against the same beliefs on power differentials that you subscribe to? Or just enacting them?
5. DAMN! I FEEL LIKE I NEED A BATH! Thanks! Now i gotta go to confession.
6. At the club i attend regularly there is a lovely black woman who is in a power exchange relationship with a white man. She is his submissive and a masochist. 90% of the time race has nothing to do with it for either of them. She's a strong woman, capable, good head on her shoulders. He's a caring man. They both do a lot for our local community. They hit it off, skin color wasn't a factor. They do, however, occasionally participate in racially themed SM play. Why? 'Cause it works for them. A lot of BDSM is theater. We play roles that are not reflections of our true selves. I don't really want to be seen as an object, my SO doesn't hate all women. But we sometimes play with those because they have strong meanings for us. Racial themed play is the same thing. It's really up to the individuals to decide if it's right or wrong for them. There isn't a single yes or no answer. If you're interested, there is a not insignifigant number of folks who are into uniforms, specifically nazi uniforms, but are not at all nazi's. It might be a good parallel to look at.