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Bisexual BDSM Practicioners?
I'm curious- does your role in BDSM play change with the gender of your partners, or does it stay fixed? I personally would rather top women and bottom for men and women . . . I'd rather not top men, for some reason. How about you?
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- Actually, I think its more common for women to top men. I have submission issues, so in either instance I would want to top.
- It does, but that's strictly because my wife and my husband both have vastly different preferences- which are far more 'set in stone' than my own. Variety makes me one happy camper.
- i top my men and can do either with woman however i prefer top
- I submit to both men and women; I have a very submissive personality and being in control tends to stress me out. I have experimented with topping men in the past; my boyfriend is a switch so it was mainly for his benefit. I'm not sure why but I don't think I could ever top a woman, even if she asked me to... I'm just too used to female authority, I guess!
- I'm definitely of the submissive type, and prefer to be submissive to a woman, though I've been known to top a woman on a rare occasion (and I probably do it ok). As for men, I could probably be submissive to a man, BUT as a straight guy, I'd have to be in the right mindset that would bring out any bi tendencies that I have. I don't think I could ever top another guy.
- I have topped men and women and transfolk. I have casually bottomed for women and men. I have only submitted to a man, but I know the potential is there for me to submit to a woman. When there is a sissy maid in my house, I'm the Dominant.
- i am a Dominant not a switch so for me there is no change many people think its all about sex but i teach the lifestyle and that is not so i have topped men when teaching a new dominant how to behave howevermy submissives are female
- I can top women or men - it doesn't matter, but only have sex with men... that's just how I'm wired. I don't bottom for anyone.
- My BDSM experience is mostly fantasy, but yeah, the gender of my partner definitely changes dynamics for me. The idea of bottoming for men or women turns me on, but I'm only interested in topping women. The part of me that's up when I'm bottoming with a man or woman is often the same, but it can also be different. How I want to be perceived or related to can change with their gender. For example, there are certain things a female top might say to me that would really turn me on, but coming out of basically any man's mouth would just freak me out or sound silly.
