Generally, men are supposed to be the leaders and breadwinners in a relationship. Because of circumstances growing up, I am pretty much the exact opposite of what a man is expected and supposed to be. That means, for all practical purposes, that I need a woman who is pretty much the exact opposite of what women are expected and supposed to be, in order to complete me. But with the exception of alternative lifestyles such as BDSM--which isn't what I'm looking for--there are no clear leads for me to such a mate and match for me. What do I do?