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My husband has joined many groups online about BDSM. He chats with other women, has many pictures on BDSM. He goes by another name. I found this out because he left his computer unlocked. Now what are your feelings about this. Now I am not interested in BDSM and never will be. Now is there anyone who has gone through this too. I find this very disturbing

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1. I think you and your husband really need to sit down and have a talk with one another.. clearly if you didn't know of his interest in bdsm, it's from a lack of communication between the two of you.. it is probably a passing interest.. often something catches our attention which is different than what we normally experience.. You also need to ask yourself, if this is a fantasy of his, are you willing to explore it. Many couples experiment with soft bondism, you know.. tying one another with pantyhose or silk belts.. dirty talk.. perhaps even spanking.. and yes, some couples choose to delve into bdsm even more.. but anything in the bedroom needs to be done with both people's consent.. but it sounds like he may be using other women as an outlet for his fantasy instead of you, which isn't good.. open those lines of communications with him.. talk about it.. and see what he wants versus what you are willing to try. haha.. and light bdsm can be very fun if both partners trust eachother.. it's just something different.. variety is the spice of life.. and especially the bedroom!
2. It's popular. To each his own i guess. No harm if all agree to it.
3. Everyone has there own fantasies and desires, and just because your husband may be viewing this material, doesn't necessarily mean he is heavily into it, or wants you to do it. I would be concerned seeing as how he actually has chat contact with other women who are not his wife, in a sexual way. Does he know you know? Always be upfront, but not confrontational. It could just be an outlet, or the start of a problem that will lead him to fulfill his fantasies without you. The only way to find out, is to ask and go from there.
4. What is disturbing is that your husband is chatting with other women online and exchanging pictures. Looking at it is just a fetish thing but when you take it beyond that its a problem. Talk to him about and go to therapy
5. I know that I would love to tie my wife up , urinate on her , beat the crap out of her with a leather whip , gag her with a rubber ball in her mouth , and rape her butt !! sounds like fun ! So , if you see any leather products around the house or ropes , RUN !!!
6. you need to allow him to speak openly to you. he obviously has an interest and you should both feel free to talk to each other. you do not have to always agree and you do not have to do things you do not want to but dont be judgemental be a mate.
7. I think you're over-reacting. Be upset that your husband is looking elsewhere without talking to you, but calling BDSM "disturbing" is taking it a bit far. It's just a fetish that people are into it. It's not doing any harm to anyone and it's not some sort of sickness. I think you're the one who's disturbed.