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JEWS - is there any Jewish laws which anyhow forbid femdom or bdsm even ones done in the context of marriage?

i'm pretty sure that fetishes shall be avoided because most of them carry with them self a big amount of astral impurity and may act negatively on the health of the soul of a person but would femdom or any other form of BDSM ones done properly in the context of marriage between a man and a woman in a way that it just reflects the personal preferences of the couple be forbidden?

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1. Wow... props to you for asking a very unique question. As far as I'm aware, the only kind of sexual activity that is forbidden has to do with (sorry to be blunt) ejaculation that occurs elsewhere than the vagina. You could refer to the Talmud just to be sure, but I'm fairly certain that there's only one restriction.
2. "i'm pretty sure that fetishes shall be avoided because most of them carry with them self a big amount of astral impurity and may act negatively on the health of the soul of a person" I'm pretty sure that's just you, but whatever. If that's your standard, then you've just answered your own question. BDSM is a fetish, and you just said that fetishes carry "a big amount of astral impurity." It sounds to me like you're just making excuses, but if it really bothers you, just stop.
3. Actually: I think you may be incorrect here. Sex isn't considered a sin and does not hold the social stigma it does in some theological beliefs. In fact, it is a commandment to have sex. It's also a commandment to keep peace in the home, and to please each other. There is nothing impure about the concept, because the ultimate goal is to cause pleasure. The personal preferences of a couple are up to them. As long as the bottom line of actual intercourse is achieved, I assume this would be ok BDSM? So really, as long as it results in vaginal intercourse and you adhere to regular separation laws: I think you're in the clear here. EDIT: ------- Allonyaev provided an excellent answer: Very informative.
4. All I'm going to say is, there is a fetish shop in B'nei Barak and it is doing extremely well.
5. A married couple can pretty much do anything they want together. One exception would be, the man would not be able to dress in womens clothing and the other way around. But Moo is correct in that he can't "waste" his seed.
6. In his laws concerning marital relations, Rambam (Maimonides) writes that a man and woman may engage in any acts they desire, intercourse any way they choose, so long as both partners agree to it; there can be no forced sex acts. He also writes, though, that relations should be done with dignity and holiness and that people should not stray from social norms because the idea of intercourse is to procreate. As others have also mentioned nothing that is done should lead to ejaculation except vaginal intercourse. If you are going to play by Rambam's rules, it is important to know that according to him it is forbidden to have intercourse with the lights on; it's got o be in the dark, though he doesn't say anything about foreplay with lighting, and that a man may not look into a woman's vagina.
7. BDSM is an interesting issue to raise- according to Rambam any sexual activity within the context of Marriage is allowed. However, both the Baal haTurim in the Arbeh HaTurim and the Shukkhan Aruch pasken differently, and we follow their rulings. So what acts are forbidden? The biggest one is anal sex. This is explictly forbidden in the Torah (the Rambam's leniency is that if people have been tainted by the desire for such, they should experience it once to satisfy that desire and then NOT repeat the act. However, he does make it clear that it is definitely prefereable to never engage in such an act). The next major one with BDSM would be feminisation- a man may not wear a woman's clothing- once again this is an explicit Torah prohibition. One area of BDSM which even Rambam would not allow is that of cuckolding- for obvious reasons! (For those who don't know what this is, it involves the woman having sex with another man with the husband/boyfriend present). The prohibition against having sex with the lights on is easily avoided (just have bright lights on outside the room)- and even if people want direct light there are other poskim aside from Rambam that are lenient on this one. Another area of concern might be that of male on female oral sex. Here there is a quite a debate amongst the poskim- the consensus opinion is that it is not allowed, however there is a large minority which many rely on that states that if is for the pleasure of the woman then it is allowed. Overall, most BDSM activities would be allowed. note: We do NOT Pasken according to Rambam. While the Mishneh Torah is an extremely important work, it is not authoritative and is not used to decide the Halakha. In that regard we use the Shulkhan Aruch and Arba'ah HaTurim.