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Why are sbmissive women afraid to talk abot BDSM?

I get put down by many people about this subject. But the truth is that many people are into this lifestyle.....they are either afraid or embarassed to "come ot of the closet".

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1. I'm a sub and not may people know this... I don't talk about it because it isn't the norm... I'm in a situation now that involves me being "in the closet" about it... but I just don't talk about it because I live in the south with a traditional family and blah, blah, blah... I use to have a dom, and I loved every minute with him, I miss him so much, but I'm scared to leave home to go to him, just because I know it's not the norm and it's a possiblity that my family would look down on me... oh well I shall remain in the closet...
2. It isn't just sub women...it is a lot of people into the lifestyle, it isn't accepted in normal socitey yet, and I don't know ifi t ever will be. Myself, I am somewhat in and out of the closet..my closest friends know that my wife and I enjoy it on a regualr basis, and are quite curious about it themselves, others suspect. I think bdsm is becoming the gay/lesiban of the 80s and early 90s...you can be if you like but people just don't want it in thier faces.
3. Yes people are into this. I am a sub. I somewhat talk about it. I have my masters mark and collar. We dont display it outside. But we do inside. If u want to talk email me at wizardslittleprincess23@yahoo.com
4. I'm a submissive woman, and I do talk about it with a few select people. Most people don't understand and they think I'm being abused, which is far from the truth. A few of those that do understand think that I must be "sick in the head" to enjoy pain and they must have unspeakable visions in their head. I say, to each their own. It doesn't bother me. I really don't care what people think of my sexual practices, because the only people that it matter to are myself and my husband.
5. Because many people find the concept that abuse and humiliation being some kind of heightened spirituality, or even a higher form of love absolutely ridiculous. If a woman talked about this openly then she might find some who may be sympathetic. However many will be aghast at the concept of pain and humiliation having any part in a healthy relationship, certainly after the strides that feminism has made in recent years and the growing recognition of domestic violence. To blame people for not 'understanding', not being clever enough is a cop out. Like most people, I don't understand why some people indulge in paedophilia, to follow the same line of reasoning, because I don't understand, I am at fault not the paedophiles. I don't believe its a case of coming 'out of the closet'. Sadism is a sexual preference, people choose to abuse. Like any choice they have to live with the responsibilities of that choice. Homosexual and lesbian people have a sexual orientation, they are born that way. They are in the closet because they have no choice, and are not able to change who they are. Sadist's can.
6. fear of social stigma and reprisals from the Christian Majority, who regard it and them as evil. in the meantime, this lowers their self-esteem and may develop some unhealthy kink. i actually would say that it's more difficult getting sub men to "come out" than sub women, because of the same reasons. they're afraid of being seen as gay, as effete, as... i don't know what. it's kind of sad, really, that ppl can't just be themselves, without fear.