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Is it not dangerous to participate in BDSM sessions with dominant mistress ?

Recently i have seen some BDSM sessions where the dominant mistress is torturing her slave like hell. Don't he (slave) feel the pain ?? or she (mistress) takes care of every thing, i mean safety measures with out doing any physichal harm to her slave.? anybodywho participated in such sessions can clarify my doubt?

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1. don't you have a safe word?
2. Yes, he feels the pain, thats what he (or whomever the submissive is) wants. Pain for many people can be erotic. And yes, there are safety measures. They would have a safe word that when said stops all activity, the dom will know how hard to do or not do certain things.
3. Anybody who more than dabbles in BDSM will definitely take precautions and safety measures when doing a scene- keeping an emergency kit (with things like EMT shears for rope, first aid kit, etc., etc.), making a safe word with your slave (when he/she says it, everything stops), and lots of training (especially with risky acts like play piercing, fire play, etc.). As for pain, well, as another answerer said, some people like pain. It can feel sexually arousing to them (remember that your pain threshold rises when you're turned on, so what seems like it would be incredibly painful in normal life might just feel good when you're aroused), or it may be spiritual- something they feel challenges them and takes them to a higher level of consciousness. And there's also pain when it is part of your dedication to your mistress- you might not like it, but you are deeply dedicated to her and are willing to do it to prove that to her (and she challenges you in order to test your dedication). Anyways, people don't do BDSM if they don't get something out of it- they like it. And most people are professionals and know what they're doing in terms of safety.
4. As a submissive in a D/s relationship, I think I can answer your question. Yes. The slave/submissive feels pain, and yes, the Mistress realizes they feel pain. That's why they're there. The submissive has a need to feel whatever pain or humiliation suits their needs, and the Dominant fulfills that need in them with full knowledge of their wants, needs and limits. Dominant and submissive relationships require an intense amount of trust, honesty and communication in both directions. I have to trust my Dominant to know when he's pushing my limits too hard, and I also trust him to keep me safe and healthy. My Dominant has to trust me to be able to use a safeword when I feel he's gone beyond what I'm capable of, and to be honest with him about my experiences. Remember, the key to any BDSM situation is "Safe, Sane and Consensual". My Dominant is also my life partner. I trust him not only to keep me safe in a BDSM situation, but to love me and be honest with me just like any vanilla relationship. I've got some links I can share with you, I'll place them below. I've also written a few papers on Submissive Behaviour and Dominant Responsibilities, and those are available if you email myself or Baron Cimitiere. I hope this was helpful in answering your questions.
5. Spooky passed this question on to me. There may be words in this answer you don't recognize. My submissive is transgendered, neither male nor female. I use gender neutral pronouns. Zie is equivilant to he or she in usage. Hir is equivilent to his or her in usage. don't let these words detract from the information that I'll be presenting. I'm the Dominant zie mentioned in hir answer. I'm not sure I know what you mean by "seen some BDSM sessions". Were you at a club or convention with exhibitions? Did you watch videos (porn or otherwise)? Did a pair of your friends allow you to watch? Each of these may show you a different side of the BDSM lifestyle. The thing to remember is that it's a trust situation more than it is a sexual situation. If one of the partners doesn't trust the other, then the scene shouldn't happen. There are responsibilities on both sides. My responsibility as the Dominant is to ensure the safety of my submissive no matter what. This means that I need to know hir limits. I need to know how much pain zie can handle. I need to know the warning signs that tell me when zie is reaching the limit of what zie is capable of handling. If, for example, I'm going to beat hir. I need to know how hir body reacts to the lash, or the belt or the flogger, or the paddle that I'll be using. If I use my bare hand, I need to know when to pull back rather than truly hurt hir. If I'm going to humiliate hir, then I need to know what zie can handle psychologically. I know that Spooky has some confidence issues, so I need to keep that in mind when I say or do things. I also need to be able to care for hir after the scene is completed. This could be as simple as holding hir and letting hir know that I love hir, and it could be as complicated as administering first aid if we are exceptionally rough. I also need to be willing to call an ambulance if (god forbid) an accident occurs. This is where the trust comes in on hir part. Another thing to remember is that no matter what it looks like, the submissive is always in charge. Whether it be by using safe words, or having the ability to put me in prison, Spooky is the one that's truly in charge. That's where the trust comes in on my part. I trust that Spooky isn't going to call the authorities when I use a paddle or flogger on hir because this is something we've agreed is appropriate for our relationship. I trust that if I misjudge hir limits, that zie will use a safeword and let me know that zie has reached hir limit. Zie trusts that I'll stop when that safe word is used. Physical harm is relative in a BDSM situation. Spooky regularly sports bruises from our encounters. These aren't the bruises of abuse, they are badges of honor. They are signs of love, even if the rest of the world doesn't understand our love or the way that we express it. If need be, I'm willing to answer more of your questions from the perspective of the Dominate, and Spooky is welcome to answer your questions from the perspective of the submissive. I hope that our answers have helped you.
6. well there are SUPPOSED to be safety measures and yes the dominatrix is SUPPOSED to be in charge of everything. but personally I trust most dominatrixes about as far as I can throw them so one would be wise to go slowly and know exactly who it is you are dealing with.
7. in my relationship i am the slave, my master knows what he is doing. pain is a part of it all, it is possible to cause someone pain without really hurting them. the most simple example of this that i practice is wearing high heeled shoes that hurt after being worn a few hours. i don't know what it is, but the pain combined with the visual appeal turns me on something fierce. but my master will not do something if he thinks there's even a chance it'll hurt me, sometimes i have to tell him i can handle it