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Has anyone say 35+ ever met someone on a online dating site and it worked? I tried before but every single one

of the men lied...ALL were married. I find myself at a loss. I live in Wa. state and it's a dead, dried up, uninspiring pool of overweight, goatee coved, latte drinking, sandal wearing, computer nerd, liberal males. Blah. I have 3 huge problems.... 1. my age...40 2. I have a fetish for Military men 3. I only seek those who pratice BDSM I have tried the BDSM sites, but again all the men were whales, married, or just plain players seeking sex only. Is it true that at age 40 single women have to settle? Should I hide my true sexually identity and be with a vanilla? (zzzz) Should I not seek Military men and instead be with a pseudo man who hates our military, yet loves the rights that they die to protect. I don't even know what section to post this in??? Singles & Dating Military Psycology Women Against Weenies my ex is Military and I really can't see myself with anything else. I just really dislike wishy washy, weak men.

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1. Figure out where the military men hang out. Go there and meet one, and teach them BDSM. Or, figure out what it is about military men that turns you on - their politics, commitment to country, bravery, whatever - and look where you'll find guys with the same qualities.
2. the more you look for the "one," the less likely you will find it. It will happen when you least expect it. Finding someone on the internet can have a lot of cons, I saw just go out and meet people in person. You don't want to get illusioned with someone on the internet and then find out he is married. What a waste of time/emotions... At 40, the majority of the women want to settle down, but it depends mainly on the person.
3. Never give up hes out there good things you have to wait for. or join the army and save lives and find love? up to you only your heart can deside but DONT settle EVER its not worth it im only 21 but do not settle. no no no no besides there are tons of sexy milatary men out there try the airforce lol yummy men who dont mind to get a little dirty
4. im younger than 35 but i think ill share my story with you anyways. im from seattle too but my experience has brought me to california. i tried all kinds of dating sites. many of the bragging about being free and i payed for a few too and didnt find anything. i found a site called plentyoffish.com and its actually free, not a trial. you can put anything you want on your profile and they wont hide your contact information. you can also eliminate people who are married, just looking for friends, or have contacted others for sex. my mom signed up for it and she is 57. she went on a few dates but they didnt work out because she just didnt like the men. i met my fiancee on there and things have worked out great. i think if you expand the area youre looking in, it may help. im sorry to hear you were lied to so much and i wish you the best of luck.
5. Yeah, Washington state sucks with all the hippies and anti government/military people. Im having the same trouble with women. I cant wait until I PCS to another post. Tried the online dating briefly, total failure. All's I can see is keep looking, you shouldnt have to change who you are but sometimes you have to compromise.
6. i am 50+ we will flirt on net cause we are very far from each other but near by heart ,me is happilly married but can flirt with you
7. Never settle for anything that is sub standard, Always be true to yourself At age 40 you still a youngin Good luck my friend
8. Hmmm...unfortunate. Really don't know what to tell you dear.