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how am i supposed to handle a girl thats into the whole bdsm and bondage scene?

my girlfriend and i have been dating for a month and a half or so and the other day she asked me to tie her up and whip her/ use her torture her and all that junk. i didnt know how to respond, ive never done anything kinkier than a blindfold and handcuffs. i kind of said i dont know so then she asked if i would prefer she did the stuff to me. what am i supposed to do? i dont really feel that comfortable with doing that stuff to her, i have never hit a woman before and dont wanna break my record, what do i do? what do i tell her? i really love her and im willing to try it but i dont wanna fuck somehting up

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1. Don't do it if it makes you uncomfortable. FP
2. Find a new girlfriend if you can't deal with it. She wont change.
3. give me her phone number. I'll straighten her out for you.
4. tell her that you don't wana hurt her
5. suck it up wuss... if she's into it you got to do it too her.. trust me she loves it :) just try it.. who know's you might be into it too!
6. Say that is not your thing but she can tie you up and beat you up instead good luck with the kinky freaky chic LOL
7. Just tell her that it's not really your thing, if she can't understand that, then she's not the girl for you.
8. If you are not comfortable with the hold thing perhaps you should reconsider the relationship as that side of the relationship is a big one and you shouldnt be put in a situation you are not comfortable with.
9. tell her exactly what you have just told us and if she really cares about you she will have no problem with it
10. Ahhh, Get with the program. Ahhhh, if you can't beat them join them. Ahhh, get out of that situation......
11. Either get into the scene or get a new girl.
12. handle her with honesty... and really think about whether you should be with her ;o)
13. This girl has some serious issues. Tell her goodbye and wipe the dust off your feet.
14. Tell her what you just told us here, that you are just not into that stuff.
15. quit bragging!
16. If you are not comfortable with it then you probably never will be. But then again how do you know if you are or are not untill you have at least tried it. If you start and cant handel it you can then stop the big problem will be how your girl takes you stoping better make sure she dosent have the whip.
17. I would bounce. If thats what she gets off on, just think of what else shes done. Only sluts are into that kinda stuff.
18. Well you should try it, try both ends. You go first then she goes. You might like it. You won't know until you try it
19. If your not comfortable doing things like that then sit down and talk to her.Maybe you should try and get another girlfriend.There are plenty of women in this world who like having sex the normal way.Maybe your girlfriend is just different.
20. Wow! You've got a freak on your hands and they usually pick their own kind. So, either rent some bondage porn to get an idea, let her do what she does to you OR run like hell! =]]
21. Tie her up, beat her a little .... screw the hell out of her, leave her tied up and go home. Leave a message for her parents to come by and see her. She is crazy anyway
22. First off you need to see it as not HITTING its called spanking and a good place to start is pulling her over your knees and cherry that little bottom red along with exploring her crevices with interest. It doesn't have to be brutal or anything. In fact bdsm can be very sensual and sexy. I had a guy who too was a little apprehensive about being dominate...but once he pulled me over his knee, he got really excited and said it really turned him on, though he still couldn't see himself breaking out the whips. Check out www.bondage.com. You can sign up for free and still explore a good deal w/out paying. NEVER leave your sub tied...its dangerous. BDSM is about a couple building trust in one another. Not just brutal sex. There is a lot of responsibility that comes with being a dominate. You have to care for your sub very deeply and protect them. But also, after trying it and its still not your thing, let her know, its just not right for you...BDSM is huge on open communication, expressing your feelings and not passing judgement on one another. Without communication, it will never work and people end up hurt. Not really different from Vanilla relationships, its just not as forgiving.
23. Try it. If it feels totally wrong, discuss that with her, and tell her to go slow because you are new to this. If things go too fast without her slowing down, or feel too wrong, get out, she most likely needs this. Remember SHE came to you, the only person you may hurt here is you. (unless you like it too much and this goes nowhere anyway.)