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I'm literally cringing as I type this because it a bit more personal than I usually get here. Oh, to hell with it...so my girlfriend and I have long been into some light BDSM, we have one issue, there aren't any titles that sound right. We've tried a lot of names and more than not they just make us laugh, which is good but it breaks the mood. If you're into BDSM or if you can come up with names that would work well in this situation, please share. It's seriously been 3 years since we got into this scene and nothing has stuck. I just can't call her "Mistress" or something like that and keep a straight face.

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1. That's a tough one. You could always just call her "Ma'am". Or pretty much any title of respect. I once heard a couple use the term "Sovereign" who had the same problem. It doesn't have to be a BDSM term or anything. You could just use something that the two of you are comfortable with or that has a special meaning. Even "Domme" would do in some cases. I've never really thought about it. Sorry I couldn't be of more help.
2. Call her by her middle name. Then it's not so strange or funny ... and you can save it for when you are in the midst of things.
3. what would she like to be referred as one is the master one the slave
4. Governess works well. Depending on personality sometimes titles like Princess, Madame, Miss (fill in the blank), etc... work out okay. When in doubt Ma'am is always a safe fall back. In all actuality though it is the Dommes choice as to the title they confer upon themself for subs to use in reference to them. If laughing when using a title is still a problem a few light slaps to the inside of the thigh can solve that problem pretty quick! lol As long as you're having fun it doesn't matter.
5. I can understand your problem, it is kind of hard to address someone you are initimate in every other way and role play a harsher role, as others have suggested ma'am or Miss would work well, as wel as coming up with an exotic name behind the miss part like pandora, Dominique, Illsa, etc.
6. The trick is for your girl to "become" another person when you're playing that way, otherwise it is difficult. She could even go so far as to wear a mask or sexy costume of some sort and think of an exotic name for you to call her when she's in her role. She could think of several different personas to try out for variety's sake. The key is to have fun with it! http://www.sub-shop.com/ Try above link for some sexy and fun ideas :-)
7. Labels are just that ... only 'labels'. My own opinion is - don't force it. One of these days, when you least expect it and are not concentrating so hard on finding the right 'words', they will come to you naturally. Another suggestion ... if you haven't done so already, try checking out some of the BDSM chats online. be sure, though, when you go into the chats, to ask permission do to so before you ask a question. Also, if you are into other 'roles', what about the term of 'daddy'? It can be a huge turn-on for some. Good luck to you both!!